Paulina

December 25, 2014

I don't want Ryan Phillippe back, if that's the way to talk about someone I never had.  I hope, though, that you're not holding on to him because you want to win in a contest with me.

You have the better life.  You're young, beautiful, in law school.  You could choose to do things that will let you out of the fame circuit.  You could do whatever you want with your life.

The "get a young girlfriend" mantra that's yelled particularly loudly and heard particularly often by men in professions that have weak moral values does a disservice to everyone who gets caught in that dynamic.  Being your age, and being my age, are difficult things.  People at both of those ages have a lot of questions that need to be answered; identity questions.  That pairing can feel like it answers those questions, but it doesn't.

It's not even just that you are so much younger than he is; it's also that you started dating him 3 years ago, when either you were or almost were a teenager.  The older person can't help dominating the younger one; the older one has so much more life experience than the younger one does.

It's not bad to be single at 23.  You'd have to work at having that not be fun.

I'm not asking you for friendship and am trying to be farther from your life, rather than closer to it.  I just hate the "cat fight" myth with which the conglomerate seems to want to surround women, and want to dispel that.

Copyright L. Kochman, December 25, 2014 @ 10:39 p.m.